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I have been reading Melissa Zollo article for quite some time. I find here approach to be somewhat different because she is using imagination as a tool to progress with our lives.

I saw this article and thought to myself – I was (and still in some area of my life) a past-a-holic, and I can see that it doesn’t really helps moving forward. Working with Barbara De Angelis, and doing the hard work of following my feelings, taught me a life lesson. To change my life, I need to change the way I look at situations, people.

Thought you might enjoy it too 🙂

Let Go Of Being a Past-a-holic!
By :Melissa Zollo

I recently met a client to discuss their dreams for greater success. Within moments a mouse ran by the table. It triggered old feelings in her that seemed to emerge from out of nowhere. Within seconds an old mental state of mind superimposed itself on the present moment. I witnessed the intrusion of old unresolved emotions seeking to be resolved. I watched as the healing process was trying to help her heal some old pain. Within her was a longing for fulfillment but she wasn’t paying attention. She did not recognize the gift nor was she listening to the language of her feelings. Instead, she was allowing her old conditioning and fearful feelings to sabotage the moment. Within seconds, her past memory was in control. Success involves focus. Distraction is the loser’s companion.

I knew she felt tempted to give up and accept unhappiness and failure. I certainly know how it feels to have been conditioned to feeling unworthy or to wonder where I went wrong but I also know that berating myself reinforces error patterns. We all have a “mouse” or a “boogie monster” that triggers old tapes. But there comes a time when our desire to breakthrough and proclaim victory demands that we pick ourselves up by the bootstraps and proceed. Most people are enslaved to their fears and the negative suggestions of others. They will step back into the safety of their comfort zone (emotional stress) rather then proceed to break through to think and choose for themselves. They are tortured by the content of their own mind. They live in bondage, even though they have the key to their freedom. I am routinely asked, “Why does the imaging process fail?” We are the reason the process fails or succeeds. We short-circuit our connection to the Life Force when we allow fear to rule our mind. By refusing to self-adjust in the moment we remain past-a-holics. We want results but decline to take off our blinders.
Emotional illness is a memory illness. We suffer because we fall into emotional debt. We allow blocked feelings to act as a defense. Self-deception opens the door to emotional damage.
We all need reminders that we are meant to be healthy, loving, joyous and creative. Healing is not a game of punishment and reward. It is a matter of connecting to the Healer Within and restoring ones memory.

What do you do when uncomfortable feelings arise? Do you allow them to superimpose themselves onto the present moment?
Are you afraid to tell the truth about your feelings and deal in order to heal and succeed?
Are you guilty of toxic nostalgia for a painful past?
Do you want to remain a past-a-holic or move into a new present memory and a successful, healthy, wise and aware self-image?
Are you willing to use energy creatively and proceed?
Your Feelings Are Worth a Fortune! You have the power to conquer fear and transform doubt. You have the ability to re-train your imagination, but it is up to you to exercise this power.
If the plug to your air conditioner fell out of the wall would you feel punished, wounded or betrayed or would you use your intelligence and restore the connection? It takes courage to think and restore our connection to the Life Force so that it remains unbroken. With understanding and practice you can rise up in consciousness and break any fixation spell. You can begin to release the spiritual riches within you and let the current flow freely. You are the Ruler of Your Thoughts – Not the Servant!

Your thoughts are creative. Success is a state of mind. Healthy people are life-minded people. That there is a relationship between our beliefs and moods is being accepted by more and more people. No matter what happened to you in the past, you can make a decision to saturate your deeper mind with new mental images fueled from acceptance, joy and love today.
Love dissolves emotional poisons and imagining creates reality.

Your dominant beliefs and feelings cause your subconscious mind to respond to the nature of your ideas. It will create lack and limitation if you dwell on the poverty of the past as easily as it will attract prosperity, harmonious relationships and success when you emotionalize thought forms along these lines.

Imagination rules, so keep your imagination on a success track.
Strengthen your relationship with your imagination and your capacity to image new results will increase.
Use challenges to reveal what needs to be healed in your memory box.
Let go of limiting beliefs that caused you to break your connection with your creative power and rebuild belief where there is none.
Make the connection between your mental blueprint/images and the healing breakthrough that you seek.

Practice the Art of Concentration. Focus is the winner’s companion.
Let your mouse be free of the past, and you will be free of the mouse.

Never close a door on a dream—your dreams are calling you!

this morning I sent my husband and my two boys on their 4th grade field trip! this is their first over night field trip!

Just before they left, I gave them a BIG hug!

Now, few hours later I saw this video, and loved it! Enjoy it too 🙂

Don’t forget, Hug your kids today!


Gratitude for a Perfect Average Day – Part 1 of 2
What’s your Perfect Average Day look like?
Okay, so maybe it would be helpful to know what it is.

I heard about the Perfect Average Day from Frank Kern, an Internet Marketer and genuinely great guy but not someone whom I expected to glean such a life-enhancing concept from.
I don’t know where he got it from.
Before I tell you what it is let me tell you why figuring out your Perfect Average Day can make a huge difference in your life.
Firstly, it gets to the core of who you really are.

You see, most of us have two versions of ourselves. Our shell identity, what we are doing right now (Banker), and our core identity, what we really want to do (Rock Star).
Our core identity is trapped by our shell identity usually for two reasons. The first is that we often don’t know what our core identity is and the second is circumstances (I have two kids and a mortgage so I can’t become a Rock Star).

The Perfect Average Day exercise helps you to discover your core identity. I quickly discovered that my core is all about love, play and contribution.

Why is this important?
Well, imagine what is like having two versions of yourself that are opposing each other. They are constantly struggling against each other. You probably don’t even know that’s what you are doing. When you discover and align yourself with your core, life becomes a whole lot more effortless.
I am not saying that you should quit being a Banker to become a Rock Star but just imagine if every communication you made came from your core. When I come from love, play and contribution I have a blast getting my kids to do what I want them to do. When I don’t, it is like,………well,………definitely not a blast.

There is a whole lot more to it from a conscious/sub-conscious perspective that I won’t go into right now. Let’s just say that it resolves internal and external struggles.
Secondly, I have always struggled with creating vision boards. I know they work amazingly well and I know I should have one and I’ve tried a number of times to create one, but I really don’t enjoy the process and I can never find the pictures I want. The whole experience goes against the premise of the Law of Attraction that it should FEEL GOOD.

For me the Perfect Average Day exercise was so much more fulfilling. It was exciting. I got to let my creativity out. I got to create a much more detailed, vivid and comprehensive picture of my life than any vision board could ever express.

It was one of the most exciting visioning exercises I have ever done and it sure as heck FELT GOOD.

Thirdly, you naturally experience Gratitude for the vision of your future that you have created.
This is the key to accelerating the rate at which you attract your desired future and it is so easy to do because the entire future you created is consistent with your core. You’ll be in tears of Gratitude when you create it and whenever you read it.

Okay, Okay, so what is it?

Simple, just answer the following question:
“If there were no limitations or consequences, what would your Perfect Average Day look like?”

A few clarifications:
Average – you could do it every day and not die or get sick of it.
No limitations – due to your health, your finances, geography or due to other people.
No consequences – you won’t get into trouble for doing it.
That’s a good start to get the juices flowing. I will help you along next week with Part 2 of this article which will include a series of questions to stimulate you in creating your own Perfect Average Day.

It’s Your Turn
Take a moment to close your eyes and ask yourself the question; “If there were no limitations or consequences, what would my Perfect Average Day look like?”
Now, just let your sub-conscious play around with it until we get into the juicy stuff next week.
When the sparks of inspiration start to fly (and they will), write them down.

Much love, Much play, Much contribution,
Grant Rawcliffe & the Ug Crew

Build Your Gratitude Muscle

When I was a child, I did not learn about money, how to budget it, how to track my expenses, how to live within my budged, save but also enjoy money! Over my adult years, I have paid a high price for not having those important tools , I got into debt, lived beyond my means and more. I learned the hard way, that money need to be well managed.

Today, as a mom of almost 10 years old boys, I want to provide them with the understandings about money and how it works. One of the ways many of us spend money these days, is by using Credit cards to shop. As I know, and you might know as well, credit card can be a great money tool, but can also cause you a lot of trouble if not paid off in a timely manner.

I am making sure I explain and teach my kids about money, but it did not occur to me that I can teach them how to use a credit card until I saw this great idea.

“If you have young kids, get them each a library card and teach them how fines work. They will “get” how perilous credit cards can be before they even know what a credit card is.”

I think this is an outstanding simple idea!!!

At a 0% interest rate, no annual fee with no credit score or credit line I can provide my kids with the experiece of a credit card!

I will move forward and get one for each of my boys. I think, this would be a great way to teach them how credit card works!

I would love to hear what you think 🙂

What would you do? You make the choice! Don’t look for a punch line; There isn’t one! Read it anyway. My question to all of you is: Would you have made the same choice?

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning disabled children,
the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be
forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated
staff, he offered a question:

“When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is
done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other
children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the
natural order of things in my son?”

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. “I believe, that when a child like Shay, physically
and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize
true human nature presents itself, and it comes, in the way other people
treat that child.”Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were
playing baseball. Shay asked,”Do you think they’ll let me play?” Shay’s
father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their
team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play,
it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be
accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay’s father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shay
could play, not expecting much. The boy looked around for guidance and said,
“We’re losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he
can be on our team and we’ll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.”
Shay struggled over to the team’s bench put on a team shirt with a broad
smile and his Father had a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart.
The boys saw the father’s joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of
the eighth inning, Shay’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by
three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the
right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic
just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his
father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning,
Shay’s team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the
potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.
At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the
game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all
but impossible ’cause Shay didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly,
much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing the other
team putting winning aside for this moment in Shay’s life, moved in a few
steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least be able to make
contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The
pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.
As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball
right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over, but the pitcher picked up the soft grounder and
could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been
out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the head of the first
baseman, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both
teams started yelling, “Shay, run to first! Run to first!” Never in his life
had Shay ever ran that far but made it to first base. He scampered down the
baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, “Run to second, run to second!”

Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and
struggling to make it to second base. By the time Shay rounded towards
second base, the right fielder had the ball, the smallest guy on their team,
who had a chance to be the hero for his team for the first time. He could
have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood
the pitcher’s intentions and he too intentionally threw the ball high and
far over the third-baseman’s head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as
the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, “Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay”

Shay reached third base, the opposing shortstop ran to help him and turned
him in the direction of third base, and shouted, “Run to third! Shay, run to
third” As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams and those watching
were on their feet were screaming, “Shay, run home! Shay ran to home,
stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the “grand slam”
and won the game for his team.

That day, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, the
boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into
this world.

Shay didn’t make it to another summer and died that winter, having never
forgotten being the hero and making his Father so happy and coming home and
seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND, NOW A LITTLE FOOTNOTE TO THIS STORY: We all send thousands of jokes
through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending
messages about life choices, people think twice about sharing. The crude,
vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public
discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and

If you’re thinking about sharing this story ,chances are that you’re
probably sorting out the people on your address list that aren’t the
“appropriate” ones to receive this type of message.

We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the “natural
order of things.” So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people
present us with a choice: Do we pass along a little spark of love and
humanity or do we pass up that opportunity to brighten the day of those with
us the least able, and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?

A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it’s least
fortunate amongst them.

You now have two choices:
1. Delete
2. Share this story

May your day, be a Shay Day,sunny today tomorrow & always!
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